Monday, March 2, 2015

What Could Have Been?

One thing that is hard as a youth pastor is that you see people achieving far less than their potential.  A student seems to be on a path to really make something of their life and seems to derail so much with one or two impulsive decisions.  They settle for just surviving or doing just enough so they are above average, but nowhere near their potential.  Yes, they are young, God can redeem, and much of life is still ahead of them, but I can’t help but feel a sense of grief over their decisions.  I feel a loss for them knowing what could have been. 


Recently as I was grieving one such situation, God brought Genesis 6 and the story of the flood to my mind.  After God saw the evil actions and intentions of man, it says, “The LORD was sorry that He had made man on the earth, and He was grieved in His heart.” (Genesis 6:6, NASB)  The emotions of God really stuck out to me.  He had sorrow and grief.  But what caused those emotions? 

First of all, I don’t think God this verse means that God wished that He didn’t make mankind.  He wasn’t sorry because it was a mistake making man.  A full explanation of that would be way more than a simple blog (I have written several seminary papers on it), but God doesn’t make mistakes nor is He ever surprised.  Before the foundation of the world God had made a plan for Jesus to come and redeem us (1 Peter 1:20) and chose me (Ephesians 1:4).

Second, God’s emotions weren’t driven by anger, bitterness, or vengeance.  Yes, the flood is a story of judgment, but notice the difference between all the other passages where it says, “The anger of the Lord burned against…” (e.g.,  Exodus 4:14, 2 Samuel 24:1).  Instead, you see God showing sorrow and grief. The flood displays God’s justice and judgment on sin, but He wants us to see His other emotions in this passage. 

We are filled with sorrow when we have desires for something to turn out one way and it goes the other.  We are filled with grief, when we experience loss.  In the same way, our sins and evil intentions of our heart pain God, because they are not His desires for us.  It hurts Him that our relationship with Him is fractured.  God has a sense of loss for us because He knows what could have been.

These are the same feelings I have for many of my students.  It comforted me that God understands my emotions and in His grace allows me to experience some of the same things so that I may know Him more.  Part of knowing Him is the fellowship of His sufferings (Philippians3:10). 

It has also challenged me that these are the same feelings God has for me when I choose other things over Him.  When I choose entertainment over spending time with Him, He has sorrow because He desires a relationship with us.  He feels a sense of grief because of the loss of what could have been. 

Now when I show these emotions, it can lead to despair, but God story and plan doesn’t end there.  Despite every intention of man’s heart being evil, God made a way of salvation. While Noah’s ark saved his family from the judgment by flood, the ark of Jesus Christ will save those who believe from the judgment by fire.  He is a God who can restore the years the locust have eaten (Joel 2:25), He will be faithful to complete the work He has started in us (Philippians 1:6).